How do I know if a relationship is healthy?
Gottman's research (40+ years): healthy relationships maintain a 5:1 positive-to-negative interaction ratio. Red flags (Four Horsemen): criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling. Green flags: repair attempts after conflict, genuine interest in partner's world, shared meaning.
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